My Experience of Long Distance Relationship

Sunday, July 05, 2015


This is a personal story about my long distance relationship (LDR) experience with my boyfriend. If you are/were in a LDR, you can probably relate to what I'm about to say. If not, then sit back, relax and allow me to tell you all about the real ups and downs of being in a long distance relationship :)

INTRO 

I'm currently in a relationship with the most amazing boyfriend in the world, Akash. Yes, he's the handsome man with that dorky face in the Skype screenshot above. Isn't he adorable?

We've been together for 9 wonderful months now. We are studying at the same university in England. I study there as an international student, which means I usually go back home, in Thailand, for holidays. Whereas Akash is a UK student who lives and studies there.

I went home during Easter holiday for a month while he stayed at his home in London. It was our first time being so many miles away from each other. Now that summer holiday is here, we're half way across the world from each other again. This time it's for 3 whole months.

I'm gonna start with our few struggles of being in a LDR and end with the happy, blissful moments. Save the best for last right? :')

THE TOUGH PARTS 

- Missing him like crazy. This is the hardest part. I cried almost every night the first week I got back to Thailand. It was so hard transitioning from being with him every single day to not being with him at all. Without him next to me physically, it feels like I'm missing an arm. I also miss our intimacy.

- Being technology dependent. The only way to contact him is through some type of technology. And sometimes, technology don't cooperate with us. Skype or Facetime can get laggy and all I can see is a pixelated version of him. The audio can also be laggy which makes it difficult to have smooth conversations sometimes. I'm not complaining much though.** (scroll down for explanation)

- Not being able to be there when important events occur. So far, we celebrated two of our monthiversaries through Skype and texts.  I want to at least give him a hug on our special day but obviously I can't. And it really sucks. It's also going to be my birthday in 2 weeks and I wish I could celebrate it with him too..

But hey, LDR is not all that bad! In fact, there are so many good things that come out of it :)

♥ THE GOOD PARTS ♥

+ Having the best feeling in the world when we see each other again. I can't put the happiness I felt into words when we reunited after that Easter holiday. My heart was so full of joy, it could burst. We hugged each other for so long, and he squeezed me so tight I couldn't breathe haha XD Being in his warm presence again makes every excruciating minute we spent away from each other worth it.

+ Appreciating the time we spend together. Knowing that our time together is limited, we've been appreciating the moments we have together and making the most out of it. Even something as simple as having lunch together makes me feel very happy and thankful to have him by my side. As the saying goes.. "Distance makes the heart grow fonder."

+ Building a strong trust foundation for our relationship. In order for a LDR to work, you need to have trust in each other. I'm thankful that we have this. We don't have to text each other every minute of the day, asking what you're doing, who are you with, etc. I know he's a loyal man who won't do anything that would make me upset on purpose, and vice versa. This strong trust foundation we have makes going in a LDR a lot easier.

+ Making our relationship and emotional bond stronger. We get to know each other in a deeper, meaningful level. Many couples in a normal relationship setting are merely "activity partners", especially in the courting stage. All they do is eat, party, movies, etc. They might see each other often but that doesn't necessary mean they really know and understand each other deeply. In a LDR, we spend hours doing nothing but communicating, which leads to a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.

+ Spending more time with family, friends and ourselves. This is a chance for us to spend more time with other people we love, as well as improving ourselves and growing as a person. Akash has been going to the gym more often (and getting buff mhmm ♡), while I've been spending more time with my family. I must admit I get homesick sometimes when I'm in England, so it's nice to be with them again.

** More on "Being technology dependent"
If you think about it, long distance couples weren't able to have the luxury of video calling each other 10+ years ago. All they had were letters and phone calls. I really admire couples who made it through their LDR back then.

One couple that inspires me is actually Akash's parents. They went through a LDR for 14 years when his dad was in the army and only saw each other for one month each year. They make me believe that it's possible to make a LDR work even without hi-tech things and that true love knows no distance.

So I'm really grateful that Skype and Facetime exists because I can at least see his charming face and hear his soothing voice through video calls :')

♥ SCREENSHOTS & PHOTOS ♥

Here are some of the things we do while video calling :) Warning: we're really dorky haha.
Making silly faces at each other is part of our daily routine XD
Teaching him how to cook our favourite Thai dish - pad kra pow. Yes he can cook.. *cough* hubby material *cough* 
Bae suffering from heatwave in UK. I don't mind at all though ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
On our 9th monthiversary (July 4, 2015) 


Woo, this was quite a long post wasn't it? If you read all the way to the end, thank you so much and I hope you enjoyed reading, love! *gives you a cookie*

What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Do you have any experience or know anyone in a LDR? Can you relate to what I went through?

Feel free to share your story in the comments below :)

With love,

Nicole

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24 comments

  1. I can totally relate with this. My boyfriend has been away for almost a year because of his OJT as a marine engineer. There are times that I just want to hug him but his million nautical miles away. That's the saddest part in an LDR.

    Live Blog Love by Hazel Asoy

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    1. Mhmm that's true.. but stay strong girl! We'll both get through this :)

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  2. I know what you've been going through right now. Last year, my boyfriend had to go back to Finland to work for 3 months. It was the hardest experience of our relationship but it made us stronger. Keep holding on :)

    Dice,'96 Wild Heart

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    1. I'm glad you guys made it work and it helped strengthen your relationship, Dice~ And thank you :)

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  3. Aww you guys are so cute! I haven't been to an LDR but I know how hard it is since I've friends who are in one. Just stay strong you guys! <3

    www.ablissfulblog.com

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  4. Aw, you guys are adorable! My boyfriend is currently working on a different shift and it feels like we're also on LDR. Such a bummer. Stay strong! :D

    www.jhanzey.net

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  5. Awwwee !! you and your boyfriend both are so cute :3 ,i hope your love remains forever,Best wishes !

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    1. Awh you're so sweet, thank you so much, love :)

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  6. And is your boyfriend Nepali? cause Akash is a Nepali name so ,,just curious tho :D

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    1. Yess that's right, he's Nepali :D Where are you from?

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    2. I am from Nepal , i am Nepali too :D . Is his surname gurung???

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    3. Ohh that's cool. Yeah his surname is Gurung. How'd you know? xD

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    4. Because I am gurung too ! :D that was a lucky guess tho hehe

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  7. this is so cute! My boyfriend and I live in the same city, but because of his work schedule & the fact that I am still in school we're lucky if we see each other once a month! It's pretty ridiculous. You and your boyfriend are uber cute though <3


    becca // 15bex02.co.vu

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    1. Oh gosh, once a month! I'd be so sad if I could see my boyfriend for such short amount of time haha. Stay strong girl! And awh thank you very much <3

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  8. Thank you for this post! This is very helpful.
    I live in Taiwan, but I am planning to study in the US next year.
    I will only come back for the holidays.
    I've heard so many tragic about long distance relationship and a lot of successful stories too.
    I believe if my boyfriend and I can overcome this 2 years apart, we can accomplish anything!
    Do share more LDR stories and tips! I need more encouragement!

    meilijourney.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Vanessa, awh I put a lot of effort into writing this post so I'm truly glad you found it useful ^^

      Yes it's true there are so many LDRs that didn't work out but many that were successful. It all depends on you and your boyfriend. Good luck and stay strong!

      Hmm I think I might post tips on how to maintain a long distance relationship to help you and others out :)

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  9. Hi, Nana~ I love that you made this post! I just wanted to add a couple of things :)

    NEVER let anyone tell you that you're not in a "real" LDR because you get to see him during the school year, or whatever. Being apart for 3 months makes it long distance, too. People will tell you "oh but you still get to see him as opposed to never seeing him besides visits" and etc, but it's a totally different situation and people shouldn't compare experiences like that. Never concede to making it a contest. Because you spend so much time with him IRL, a lot of your struggles are different when it comes to being apart.

    And like you said, there's so much room to grow when you're away :D You get to build your relationship purely based on verbal and text communication! That has to be one of the best parts.

    Okie, that's it~ I'm proud of you and I know you'll keep on being strong! Stay in good health~

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    1. Omigosh hi Lynn <3 Waa thank you soso much for writing such a sweet, sincere comment ;u; I really appreciate it. Mhm I agree with you. Although no one has told us that our relationship is not a real LDR yet, I'll definitely keep your words in mind. Our relationship has gotten a lot stronger because of the distance :)

      I have so many feels when right now, thank you again Lynn > <! Luv youu~

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  10. I totally like your blog and your post about your long distance relationship!:)
    Long distance relationship really aren't easy but sometimes some people are worth it and to me distance is only a number. Also when you are with someone you also plan to be with them (hopefully) forever so you are already working towards a future together so the distance between each other actually is only temporary. And what are a few months or years apart when you want to spend the rest of your life with that person :'3
    For some people it may not be possible and a reason not to be in a relationship, which is totally fine, everyone can decide that on their own. But to me, sometimes it's worth it. What use do you have when there are people close to you you could be with but that one single person you want to be with is further away. Of course I choose that person further away then, hoping and working towards a future together. :')
    Okay, this comment got a bit longer but I kinda feel personal touched by it /)///(\

    Have a nice day!<3
    xoxo, Merce
    www.its-mercedita.blogspot.de

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    1. Waah thank you for reading and leaving such a moving comment <3 Yess I agree, it's worth it when you're with the right person :) Not sure if you're currently in a LDR, if you are, stay strong! And hope you'll be together for a long, long time <3

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